If it is hard to accept a rebuke, even a private one, it is harder still to administer one in loving humility – D. A. Carson

Carson’s statement begs the question, “how do you give a rebuke in loving humility?” David Mathis in his book Habits of Grace: Enjoying Jesus Through the Spiritual Disciplines gives seven steps we can work towards giving a rebuke that is biblical/Jesus-honoring. Check your own heart first. Seek to sympathize. Pray for restoration. Be quick. In my opinion,…

Keep your mouth shut, when you used to blurt out a reaction.

David Powlison in Good and Angry: Redeeming Anger, Irritation, Complaining, and Bitterness, gives the following examples that I found helpful regarding the “good fruit” of wisdom. Keep your mouth shut, when you used to blurt out a reaction. Listen, when you used to be busy crafting a comeback. Speak up courageously, when you used to get intimidated. Embed any specific…

Dietrich Bonhoeffer on bearing suffering

In denying Christ Peter said, “I do not know the man” (Matthew 26:74). Those who follow Christ must say that to themselves. Self-denial means knowing only Christ; no longer knowing oneself. It means no longer seeing oneself, only Him who is going ahead, no longer seeing the way which is too difficult for us. Self-denial…